There it is. and I don't do this often, but I will quote his entire post in full cause it needs to be read over and over.
Your not there to fight, bluff or bluster. Your there to do your job and you are going to do your job.
My first Sheriff taught us and trained us in a hard school. Be polite, look em in the eye, speak respectfully.
There will always be someone younger, stronger and faster. That's life. , But ,
If he hit you, he better be on the ground.
if he puts you on the ground, he better be in the hospital.
if he puts you in the hospital, he better be in the morgue.
Your not there to start fights. Your there to pick up the pieces, and if NECESSARY, to finish the fight.
But you have to be ready to deal with the situation, however it plays out.
You've all seen the guy, nobody generally messes with him. He's polite, quiet, holds doors open for people, lets the old lady go ahead of him in line, is fully aware
of everything going on around him and he's the guy, old or young, that nobody messes with. just, don't.
car stop, 4 hispanic's in the car and I'm alone and they are burglary suspects, then my old mentor, my undersheriff pulls up. arrest all 4. investigator interviews them and tells me a piece of it later. We were gonna jump the young cop, but that old cop would'a killed us.
it's presence, it can't be faked. It kept me alive that night. It's served me well since. I did not have it as a young officer when I started out. I learned it along the way from good officers and teachers and from working in nasty circumstances. You have to, just be. I'm there to do my job. I'm not afraid of you or anything you might do. I respect you, I expect you to respect me and I'm not going to do something to decrease your respect for me.
oh yeah, one more thing Sarge.
(but hard work trumps talent every time) Hard work trumps talent if talent don't work hard. Fixed it for ya.
I deal with those kinds of young men all the time. My way of dealing with them is multifaceted as follows:
1) Don't show the slightest intimidation but do so without without swagger. My attitude is that they can't do anything to me that I can't do to them faster and better. The only way you can do this without faking it is have solid skillz. Confidence comes from competence (and experience) and can't be faked. Street wise people can smell a fake immediately. With that confidence comes the ability to let them talk smack and walk away. What do you have to prove to a punk when its just bluster? Not a damn thing. Now let him lay hands on you and its immediate retaliation. No halfway BS. Go Wolverine on him. No body fluffing touches you and gets a free pass. No. Body. But again to do that you better be able to handle yourself. If you can't do that right now, learn how. No one pops forth from the womb knowing how. We all learned. Now it may come more naturally to some than others but hard work trumps talent every time.
2) Be the Quiet Professional until its time to give orders and then don't bluff.
3) Follow through on everything you tell them to do or that you are going to do. Tell them then, failing that, make them. But be able to make them. Again, never bluff.
4) Show respect even if they don't rate it. I call everyone "Sir" or "Mister" and look them dead in the eye. If I can help them, I will. My philosophy that I taught my rookies is to treat everyone like they are my brother or sister until they prove otherwise. Then sometimes even your brother needs tuned up.
All that said, sometimes you just can't talk successfully or deal with certain extra special people and they have to be taken to the ground hard. Once they are restrained though, you start back at step 4 and its "Stand up sir," etc. Often times once they are seated in the back of a patrol car and I can talk to them I will tell them "Look I'm trying to help you IF YOU will let me so chill. Being experienced in my town, there's a lot of people I can tell from past run ins that "You know me. I've always been fair to you so be cool and it will all work out." Then there's the perennial jackass that I have to tell "Hey you know me and you know what I'll do if you don't calm the hell down son."
In all I have disdain for punks like that and don't sweat them. Then there's the true predator (the 1%) and they ain't it.